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[alliecat8]

Oh, y'all, I've got a problem I can't solve.

There's wisdom, like in the Bible. There's wisdom, like in the movie Mean Girls (not so much, but arguably there). Then there's RL, in which wisdom is more problematic. So.

You like a sweet guy. He likes you. But he's just a sweet guy, right? DON'T BLOW SUNSHINE UP MY ASS, if y'all were into sweet guys you wouldn't be on my flist. So, what advice would you give your teen daughter who'd be better off dating a sweet guy but who you wouldn't in a million zillion years date yourself?

Wait, I'll make it easier:
[Poll #1246167]

Comments

[cynthia-arrow.livejournal.com]

I have a very sweet guy now (yes, the one in your hometown!). And I'm very happy. ;)

[ficangel.livejournal.com]

No, we like faux bad boys. Strip away the hard candy shell, sticky chocolate inside. :) I think that they only exist in fiction, so go for the sweet guy in real life.

(Also, you code very well for someone who appears to be drunk. *glomps*)

[that-evening.livejournal.com]

I have to admit it, I don't think I have ever liked an even fictional sweet (or totally sane) guy!

[eponine119.livejournal.com]

I mean to vote for "save the booze" OOPS.

Allie, this is your kid. If she had a bad boy you would freak the hell out, secretly proud or not. What I advise for a kid on her 2nd boyfriend is way different than I would prescribe for any of the adults here on LJ who know what they're getting into. He's good! You don't have to worry!

I do wonder a bit if she's rebounding a bit from Guy #1 being such a jerk. But she'll get bored eventually and find someone who's just the right mix of sweet and bad.

[inthekeyofd.livejournal.com]

Bad boys are nice..to watch, but who needs the drama, sweet guys are SWEET and nice and yes, they can be a little on the boring side, but boring is a whole lot better than living a Jerry Springer Show episode. see, look at Foxy..he's a sweet guy with a whiff of bad boy tendencies..but still, SWEET GUY, now that's a much better combination.

[zelda-zee.livejournal.com]

Hmmm. I dated bad boy after bad boy until I got smart and dated Mr. Z. But not everyone needs/wants to date bad boys. I'd encourage your daughter to date the nice guy, because god knows, if she's one to go after the bad boys, she'll do it with or without your input!

[janie-tangerine.livejournal.com]

I'd say go for the sweet guy. I always was one for sweet guys to be honest ;) and I'd always say date what you like so if she does like the sweet guy I'd say she should go for it. Anyway, voted ticky because I always vote for that one.

[ellel.livejournal.com]

Sweet guys are not bad at all,lol!And if we're talking teenage daughter and if they like each other-go for a sweet guy!
She has plenty of time to date bad boys if she gets bored!;)

[ella-bee.livejournal.com]

I'd say that now is the time to date the bad boy. Get it out of her system, realize that the bad boy WILL eventually hurt her / break her heart / isn't any good for her. At least, not in the long run. So, he'll either come around to becoming a good guy (once the teenage angst has dissipated), or, she'll find out that she wants a sweet guy. Bad guys are fun to date, but long term down the road? Not so much.

Sweet guys aren't boring. I like the intellectual sweet guy that also has some competitiveness in him and likes to debate and press my buttons and gets me riled up. ...I may have just described my finance. yep. ::nods::

And sweet boys come with their drama too. I think they also have some repressed bad boy that wants to come out and often does at the worst possible moment. It's better that they get it out of their system when they're younger.

Okay, I think that's everything now. Wow, did I ever ramble!

[hollycomb.livejournal.com]

I dumped my sweet guy in high school and I don't regret it. BUT, after a string of bad guys who were fun until they weren't anymore (if you know what I mean), I'm back with a sweet guy.

You just have to find the RIGHT sweet one! If you're not attracted to him, don't settle for him just because you know he'll treat you right. That'll end up as disastrous as the bad boy route. Good luck!

[indes-elfwine.livejournal.com]

Mr. Darcy > Mr. Wickham. Bad boys are hot on TV and in the movies, but good guys are much less trouble in RL.

[bbmarcello.livejournal.com]

Had some sweet guys in my life that turned out to be too boring, had some sweet guys in my life that turned out to be passive-aggressive assholes, had some bad boys in my life that turned out to be assholes, had some bad boys in my life that turned out to have hearts of gold - so, hate to say it, but they're all part of life's rich tapestry and you sure get to learn by your mistakes.
*whataloadauselessadvicesheesh*

[gottalovev.livejournal.com]

if she likes him, why not? if he's too boring, she'll find out soon enough. As a mother, I don't think I'd ever advise to wait for a bad boy... even if they are sometimes fun.

[failoh.livejournal.com]

From experience, I've only dated (twice) two sweet guys and I've had fun the entire time we were dating. But..I wouldn't mind one "bad" guy.

It'd be fun!

So, I think your daughter has a situation. How'd it go?